There's something else in the circuit. I haven't yet figured out what it is, but the relay can click without the plugs going on. I verified this (I think) today when I wired a manual glow plug switch, tested it with the truck hot, relay clicked, but the glow plugs didn't come on as verified by the voltmeter. I *think* it's the temperature sensor that interrupts the circuit after the relay if the engine is hot. Not sure. If I can find out what it is, I'd like to bypass it.
Edit- I just went out and started up the truck, the wait light came on (indicating it was cold) I held the button that I'd wired in down, but didn't see the voltmeter drop like it used to when the plugs were on. Figured what they hey, held it down, counted to ten, cranked it- fired right up. Tells me that there's something else there that was drawing current, but I'm not sure what the heck is going on.
Sigh, time to pull the wiring diagrams out again... or hope that somebody with more experience chimes in.