RESOLVED!!! In a feat of awesomeness, Rick (GeneralDisorder) happened to have one attached to a spare cab at his shop. He was kind enough to let it go my way, and in an amazingly short time since I took the liberty of screwing it up, my rig is back to fully functional.
A little bit of learning though... it was actually the fan clutch and the power divider solenoid. No matter how hard I tried to get 24V to show up at the "other" connector, I had nothing. Something from one of Dave/Shawn's videos made me try the MODE button and boom- power to it! I will go edit my original post...
So the reason I didn't have air ride was because I didn't have air through the regulator. The reason I thought that came through the solenoid is I was only aware of missing cab air and fan clutch, so I assumed they were the two feeds at that distribution.
With air through the regulator, the system is pressurized and the electronically controlled functions I am aware of are all now functioning.
THANKS(!!!) Rick!